The term “be yourself” is so cliche, really. You hear it all the time, and sometimes, it simply loses its meaning. I mean, do you even REALLY know who “you” are? Kinda crazy to think about!
Today, I was doing a little work, and I kept thinking of the same thing over and over again. When that happens, I usually feel like it must be something others need to hear, so I write 🙂
Throughout the years, I have found a few things to be true about life and about me. Let me just lay it out there for you!
I realize that not everyone will EVER like me, period. BIG SHOCKER, huh? Well, of course it is not a shocker, but it still a hard truth to swallow at times. I DESIRE for everyone to like and appreciate me, but the truth is- that will absolutely never happen. I can be an acquired taste. I can be a little “extra”. I am fairly bold. I don’t sugar coat things a lot. I am kind and sweet, but I 100% have a feisty side that wants to show itself here and there! I am stubborn as a mule, and I am very independent.
I am sporadic. My mind goes 90 to nothing 100% of the time. I rarely sit and rest. I love big, and I work super hard. I tend to think others are supposed to be the same way, and sometimes I am let down because others don’t show me the same love that I show them (or in the same way). I have a million flaws…and I have a few things that I do really well. I am a mixture of a hurricane and the calm after the storm.
Is there ANYONE out there who can relate to this? I sure hope so…because as I was writing this out, I was thinking to myself, “dang Brooke…you really are quite a mess.”
So, like I said…I realized a few years ago that it didn’t matter what I did, some people would never appreciate me for who I am. The hard part was for me to accept the fact that it was OK with me, but I did. I accepted that. And guess what? It was FREEING! Once I let myself be MYSELF, I felt completely free of my own insecurities. I wasn’t trying to be anything that someone else wanted me to be. I was just me.
I made decisions and didn’t second guess who would think what and how this person or that would react. My husband has always been that way, but it has taken me MUCH longer to get on board 😉 I am a slow learner.
I truly believe that as I began to completely be myself more and more and allow more people to see my real personality, it has shown itself more and more in my writing and my decorating and diy projects. Basically, it has come out in my business ALL over the place.
I realize that my “style” isn’t for everyone, but that doesn’t stop me from sharing. I share because I want to inspire, and I share because I personally love it.
My home is a reflection of ME, and I have my own, unique taste. I don’t go with the trends and what “they” say is popular and isn’t popular. I simply buy or make things that I personally like, and somehow, I find a way to make it fit. Some of it is a big old hodge podge! And guess what? I LIKE IT THAT WAY! It is fun!
I have been told that it is much better to be more minimalistic. I have been told that there are much better ways to style shelves. I have been told that I have “too much” everywhere. I have been told that my hair is too over the top, and it is distracting. I have been told that I need to make myself more presentable to the public or I will never be taken serious. I have been told that I am “too short.”
I have been told that my voice is too annoying to listen to. I have been told that I “put on Christianity”, but that it is all a show. I have been told that I need more kids. I have been told that I brag about my home. I have been told that I should have done this or should have done that. I have been told that I didn’t need the house we built. I have been told that I should work from home and never get away to get work done, because that is just not using my resources wisely. Y’all….I have been told SO MANY THINGS.
And guess what? If I listened to each and every one of those things…this would happen. One, I would be depressed. Two, I would be running in circles. I would never be me. I would be a version of me that fit into someone else’s mold…and I would not be authentic. I would constantly be insecure with who I am. I would never feel adequate.
Instead, I choose to ignore. Sure, I appreciate good, solid constructive criticism or someone who KNOWS and LOVES me to tell me their advice, but in the end, I choose to ignore the majority of the voices that come at me from all directions. I know my path, and I know who directs that path. I know that I LOVE having “stuff” setting around. Sorry not sorry. If you don’t like stuff, then don’t set it out! It very simple. I love my wild hair. Love might be a strong word…but I accept this look because most days, it is literally all it will do. I had to just start embracing it. I am ME. If I have to “look” a certain way when giving a devotion that God set on my heart, then I can’t help but feel like there is a bigger problem on your heart than my appearance. I can promise you, God is not looking at that. I can’t help my voice. I was born and raised in the south, and I am just as country as the day is long. If I sound “unlearned”, so be it.
My Christianity? Well, it is as real as the wind. I will never shy away from it. God gave me a voice and a platform, and I will continue to use it for Him. Need more kids? Well, did you know that for almost 7 years, we actually wanted another…but the Lord has not seen fit for that, so perhaps I am supposed to be content with what He did provide? This home? I am proud of it. I know how HARD my husband and I worked tot have this, and I will always choose to inspire you by bringing you into my own life. It is always your choice whether or not you choose to stay and sit a while.
Here is the deal, folks. If we listen to all the outside “voices” and try to please them, we will very soon be downtrodden, disappointed, depressed and completely inauthentic to who we were created to be.
Know WHO YOU ARE. Embrace it. Cherish it. There is only ONE you. Literally, only one. The God of the universe created YOU with a purpose. He created your quirky personality. He created your talents and abilities. He created you to have a certain sense of humor and sense of style. He created you fearfully and wonderfully made. He created you exactly as He wanted you to be. Your job is to be the best version of that person that you possibly can. It is to embrace your uniqueness and dial in on those traits that only you have. Choose to be YOU 100%. There is nobody else that can do that job. How awesome is that?
I want to end with this quote:
“Be exactly who you want to be. Be the woman who stands up for herself and her dreams. Be the woman who is proud of herself and proud to be herself. Be the woman who is strong and vulnerable: wild and free. These chains could never hold someone like you. I think it is finally time you break free.” Walk the Earth